They could be shopping in your supermarkets or walking in your parks, they're everywhere, living among us - the secret societies of women who get together every week and discuss mum things have been in operation since time immemorial.  And they're great!

Recently I've been attending the pregnancy/newborn group here in Manila, and it's been eye-opening to say the least.  You can read all the books in the world, but there's nothing so valuable as to ask your questions to a group of people in a similar position to you.  As the only male in the group (so far) it has been a bit daunting, but the ability to relate to others around my age is invaluable in keeping us sane.  Just to know that someone else out there is going through the same issues as we are is immensely relieving.  Of course there are internet forums these days, and they're often quite informative, but there's nothing like having a cup of coffee & relaxing while your kid plays on a mat with the other kids, and you can sit there & discuss the weird stuff your kid does/doesn't do in a non-judgmental environment.  It's doing wonders for my sanity!

In addition to providing a bit of socialisation for the babies, it's also great just to have a few other babies around just as a bit of a yardstick to measure your babies' achievements.  It's not a competition to see who's crawling first, or who's sprouting little teeth first (or who can put a crying baby to sleep fastest), but the group does give a good indication of the developmental stages that the kids should be going through.  

Of course it is a bit odd that I'm always the only man there, but it's never too awkward.  I'm pretty sure that the mothers accept that the times are changing for men of my generation and that soon men are going to play a much greater role in raising children all over the world.  My next goal is to form a secret dads club of my own!


01/23/2014 9:24am

From Mads to Fads?? :)


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