The former was a light hearted, cheeky look at all the 'benefits' of having a child, such as buying yourself gifts that you claim are for your baby (if you had any money to spend, that is). The latter is a heart-felt and somewhat distressing confession from a woman who never wanted children but had two. She still loves them, as any parent would, but resents all the things in life that they had taken from her.
The first article was quite amusing, and I shared it immediately with Megan. While it identified several, ultimately negative aspects of having children, the aspect was very positive, conceding that yes, parents were always going to be worse off after accepting the responsibility of a child, but the trade off was more than worth it.
The second article I didn't really want Megan to see - not that I ever think she would regret having our child or the change in our lifestyle once the baby arrives. What was most gripping was the serious nature of the story and how long this lady had tolerated her burden.
"Like parasites, my children would take from me"
For me, the scariest part is that it is so possible, and this lady can't be the only person out there thinking these things - she's simply the one putting her feelings into words, putting her story on-line for the world to see and to judge. I don't condemn her for airing her thoughts, she is neither right nor wrong and I applaud her for her courage and honesty, but I do think it's unfortunate - for both her and her children.
It makes me wonder, as much as I hope that we will love our children as much as possible, will we? We think we are prepared for the sacrifices we will have to make, and only time can tell if we will be up to the challenge. I hold every confidence that we will be caring, loving, nurturing parents, and hopefully this article will serve as a reminder so that we continue to be as good as we can when our little one arrives.
The full article can be read here.